Sunday, October 11, 2015

Things I Learned in 2015



Doing a recap of the year when it hasn't even ended...weird I know. But its 1am, I'm up writing a client proposal and it just hit me that this has been a hell of a year. Where best to sort through the muddle than on TWP eh?



Trusting the timing of my life and working on accepting the fact that things happen at their own pace, and comparison and self-doubt can only slow me down.

Living without fear.

Working on being a better friend and realizing that a lot of my friendships exist because I have great people in my life who put in the work and carry most of the weight. That checking on people isn't 'icky' but necessary.

Building a better relationship with God, which for the first time in a very long time I think I managed to achieve this year. This is particularly important as this has been the year that made me feel like God has 'ignored' me the most but where I'd normally take it personal and stop trying, it only strengthened my faith.

Learning that I'm not superhuman and I can't expect to eat bread at 11pm and not resemble a bag of rice. Made the decision to live healthier this year and its been fantastic.

That 'that's just the way I am' is no excuse for bad behavior.

Growing older is truly amazing.

*Learning to "plant my own garden, and decorate my own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring me flowers"

*"Accepting my defeats with the grace of a woman and not the grief of a child"

Exulting in my successes no matter how few and far between

Appreciating my parents DAILY because I'd be lost without them.

Breaking down my walls because being careful keeps bad things from happening to me but it also shuts out the good things. Learning to embrace life and take it in my stride.

Trying actively to stop focusing on the worst possible outcomes and trust that good things will happen. 

Stop using travel as an escape from real life.

Not take everything so serious and live a little.

NEVER make any major financial decisions in an election year, especially in Nigeria...never again.

Love and light xx



*Veronica Shofstall







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  1. Some serious grown-up thoughts. I've been thinking some lately too.

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  2. Great positive thoughts to live by. Great of you to share, greetings and best wishes!

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  3. Hello Adaku,

    You wrote this beautifully. 2015 has been enriching for you.

    You've learned to perfect the art of living your best life. it's very inspiring, thank you for sharing.

    Warm regards.

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    1. Hi!

      Thanks so much. It really has, so many lessons learned and so many highs and lows in the span of 10 months.

      Thanks for reading xx

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  4. Beautifully written. I used to think being an adult was a trap but now it's amazing to me.

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  5. I looked at the title and got sick at the thought that another year is drawing to a close and I don't feel accomplished, but you made some valid points that pacified such qualms.

    BLEURGH - www.bleurghnow.com

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    1. Girl, trust in the timing of your life. I repeat this to myself every day.

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  6. lol @ bag of rice. its good to know u have learnt so much.
    www.folasoasis.com

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  7. That was my first though 'but the year hasn't even ended but I wont lie i started thinking about this year and how it has been when it got to Oct and for everyday this month i have constantly reminded myself of somethings not saying anything got better but at least now i am aware of the day and thinking of all i plan to achieve before it eventually runs out. what a year!!

    www.dleonalife.blogspot.com

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    1. I know right! This year has been a hell of a ride. But in all things we thank God

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  8. Hey, there's nothing wrong with using travel to escape from real life temporarily.Sometimes you need to just go somewhere to take a breather and regroup.I'm constantly working on Point 1.

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    1. I do it a lot though, whenever there's conflict or uncertainty of any kind instead of facing it I run off somewhere. Working on finding a balance.

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  9. This post is so relatable. Like I'm totally in sync and feel like I asked you to narrate my own feelings, emotions and experiences I wouldn't voice out but have thoughts about.
    God bless you Daks.
    Both my parents turned 60 this year and I've really been so close to them this year than ever. I cried thinking they won't be around forever. Making extra effort to make them smile on a daily.
    And I read this in such a calm state. I feel like you were so calm (and grown) writing this. No turnup mode, lol
    I said to myself today that I need to be more productive and the first step is to be true to myself and cut down on the time I spend on blogs, social media and TV (I use these as an escape and distraction from real life). But I'm like okay, let me check TWP last time before my long hiatus starts and THIS is what I see.
    So calming and reassuring.
    Really wish you all of the very best in lfe. God's got you!
    Fre'

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    1. Hahaha, don't leave!!

      But yeah I'm glad people were able to relate to this post you always think you're the only one going through something, then you speak out and find out you're not the only one.

      Thank you so much and God bless you too x

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  10. Daks I can so relate. I've learnt to count my blessings and be more thankful this year. Because I've not achieved all I've been hoping to achieve this year. Every time I remember I'm stuck in a job I don't particularly like, I keep reminding myself of how lucky I am to at least have a job that pays something, even though I've been on study leave without pay. I managed to complete my MSc and got married while at it so I am extremely grateful. I may not be where I want to be but I'm better than I was last year. And for that I'm thankful to God.
    Great post as usual dear.

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    1. Yay you! I'm focusing on the positives here and they're amazing! Too many blessings in your life.

      Thank God!

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  11. ....and the year has not ended! That your number 1 point....GBAM!

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  12. Ehen so I'm reading everyone's comment about the price of the tshirt ans I'm like ah it can't be that bad lol. Then I looked at the price. *sweats* all i can say is YOLO. lol can't take the money with us when we go so, love the versatile looks :-)

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  13. Awesome stuff hun. So wierd how you think you are going through unique experiences and when you share you find out you are not alone. Trust the timing of your life... working on that one

    Ify

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  14. In summary, i saw 2 things...Self-awareness and Other-awareness. Live on!

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  15. Kudos adA, but i disagree on the travel part.

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  16. *Learning to "plant my own garden, and decorate my own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring me flowers"

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