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It’s a common occurrence, “Fabulous People at So and So Event” followed by pictures of said fabulous people either candid or posed, from Thisday Style to Guardian Life to Elan to Genevieve to BellaNaija.com to Lindaikeji.blogspot.com……you get my drift. Then below them, the people who really have the power, the faceless, pseudonym protected detractors, who size up the people pictured and decimate electronically….THE COMMENTERS.

Everyone is entitled to an opinion, definitely but the vitriol I see spilled on many occasions is truly unnecessary. These people commenting go beyond simply analyzing outfits to revealing tidbits about personal lives, insulting characters etc. I read some of the comments I see on websites like 234next or Bellanaija and I’m just amazed at people’s capacity for malevolence and its not just because I have personally being a victim on many occasions. I appreciate constructive criticism restricted to fashion (which is why the guests are pictured there in the first place) but you see comments like “So xxx is still whoring around” or “xxx should stop sniffing coke and get his act together”, childish, silly statements like that which have no bearing on the issue at hand but serve as a vehicle for a spiteful, cowardly, envious person to use the most public platform the person can think of to insult someone who probably doesn’t even know them.

Honestly you have to wonder, what does the way a person chooses to live his or her life have to do with the fact that the person attended a fashion launch or a party. I saw a photo of a popular Lagos socialite once at some event and granted her outfit wasn’t really doing it for me and I saw a lot of comments based on that, then I saw one comment saying “this girl needs to go STFD with her fake accent, dressing like she’s blind”. I actually burst out laughing, how on earth did her accent affect her dress sense? I try to refrain from using the word “hater” but I think it applies in some cases.

Now you may wonder “TWP why you dey vex?”, but yes it is personal. Living in Lagos you truly can’t avoid the paps, people think that when you get photographed and appear in ThisDay Style et al you purposely went looking to be papped.

Honestly my lovers, no be so.

These photographers are everywhere, every wedding, every show, every event and since I do like to attend concerts and comedy shows and fashion do’s unfortunately or fortunately (depends on how you view it) I get papped quite a lot. The first time it happened, I think it was ThisDay Style back in 2006 or so, I was super super excited, I bought like 20 copies and distributed them to fam and friends, but now years on, I’d get the call or bbm “Daks you’re in ThisDay” or “Daks you’re on BellaNaija” or memorably on one occasion “Daks you’re in City People” (O_o) Da hell???? So I’m def more chilled about it now, I don’t even have copies.

That’s why when I see these seriously mean comments I’m always like wow, even if you were thinking it, you didn’t have to say it. Luckily I don’t get too bad a rap from the commenter’s, minor hating once in a while so I’m not really bothered, but what inspired this post were the comments I saw about a really close friend of mine earlier this week. She’s a very visible figure in Lagos so she’s a pretty easy mark, we’ve gotten used to seeing derogatory statements a few times about her but this one was just the height. These people were evil. They forgot they were there to critic her style and went in on her family, her relationship, her morals, her business…..like it was just so sad.

This is a PSA to those haters (yes I used the word) out there. Bear in mind that when you attack people like this, to you you’re just having a bit of fun but what you’re doing is spreading malicious stories about an innocent person and doing it on the internet is even worse, you’re sticking a permanent record of what you have said for everybody to see.

Cease and desist people.

Love and light xxx

photo from fotosearch.com (i guess you can see that already sef)

Extra! Extra! Read all about it!

Would have included this in my earlier post but I just saw it now. I know you guys are used to this side of me that writes about fashion, lifestyle, personal experiences etc.its really easy to forget that I have a proper job, being a lawyer that is. I love to write and I love fashion but I view them as interests which I indulge in from time to time, which I love but are not necessarily my future. My dream is to become the Chief Justice of the Supreme Court of Nigeria, maybe even The International Court of The Hague, all in all the aim is to get to the top of the Judiciary.

Anyhoo a while ago, I and two other counsel in my firm won an appeal at The Court of Appeal, it was a major case and written up in Law Reports, I actually never saw any myself but I was just given a copy of the The Guardian Newspaper from the 19th and it was reported in their Law Review! That is like a really huge deal and I'm tres excited. I become eligible to be appointed to a Court in Nigeria in 2019, long, I know but its the rules, you have to be 10 years at the Bar before you can become a Judge and I was called to the Nigerian Bar in 2009. So things like this publication are very important and go a long way towards establishing a solid reputation and being nominated.

So here's to Justice Adaku Abimbola ****** LLb BL ACIArb LLm(very soon)Phd(still thinking about that one) sitting at the Federal High Court of Nigeria, Lagos Division 2019.

**You can read the full article on The Guardian News website here

Giddy and tinz

Yesterday a friend of mine accused me of being "giddy" and he said this with the utmost disgust. He's used to my normal sarcastic, pessimistic, cynical persona, so to be confronted by this alien in Adaku skin who's constantly smiling and happy was disconcerting to say the least. But I am though and I make no apologies for it, I am happy, life is beautiful, I am beautiful, love and light to everyone, lol. Ookaay now I just sound deranged, anyhoo to the business at hand.

In my last post I talked about the Pink Pearl Foundation and their work of spreading awareness about breast and cervical cancer, on Saturday the 9th of October we went to Mushin to educate people, hand out information packets and demonstrate the appropriate means of carrying out self examinations on breasts.


Ediri, Adanna


Omawunmi, who's one of the ambassadors for the Pink Pearl Foundation and the other officials. Omawunmi is giving serious face in this photo, cracks me up everytime I look at it.


It turned out to be quite a fun morning and a welcome change from my usual social routine. As my tormentor Ediri said when she was telling me about it "your life shouldn't be all about fashion and events and parties and shows, come out and do something different for once and in the process help your fellow man". Ok, maybe she wasn't quite so eloquent and civilised, there was plenty of b***h, you better get the f**k out of your house and f*****g attend this rally for breast cancer, or something along those lines sha.

Earlier in the week I attended the party for the new Miss Nigeria Damilola Agbajor at the Marquee with my friends Jen and Jania. The girl is so GORGEOUS in real life! When I first saw photos of her on Bella Naija, I was like the other contestants must have been fugly for this babe to have won, not that I was being spiteful or anything but she didn't look special at all, I thought she was very ordinary, just bleh. But in person her facial features are exquisite, I was just like wow. Also Nike Oshinowo-Soleye is a MILF toh quality (not that I personally would, but I know many guys my age she can get it from, repeatedly). She really looks amazeballs for her age, body is ridiculous, skin is glowing.....like whatever she's on, I want some of that in 20 years time.


Res ipsa loquitor people, does this look like a beauty queen? In person though she's just really beautiful.


Jania, Jen, Mai

On Sunday I attended the Basketmouth show Lord(s) of the Ribs (I know its "Lords" but I just feel like I'm gbagauning when I say it so I prefer "Lord"); at the Expo Center at Le Meridien Hotel.
*sidebar* The Expo Center seems to be the hottest place in Lagos now, every fabulous event is taking place there, I've beeen there not less than 4 times in one month alone and I think I have 2 more events to attend there before the end of this month, jeez. The word "overkilling" does not exist in the Nigerian dictionary.

Anybody who knows me well knows I'm a huge fan of laughter, I crack up for the daftest things, that song from Mary Poppins "I love to laugh" should be my theme song. So if there's a comedy show I'm in there like swimwear. No jokes but Basketmouth is BALLING! I'm sure it def costs a bit to book the Expo Center first of all and the tickets cost 5k for regular and 20k for Vip, the Expo Center is massive but it was packed, regular, vip, everywhere, people were even standing sef. At the Vip tables we got complimentary champers, small chops and hors d'oeuvres (I kid you not, like stuffed bacon, anchovies on crackers, pate), in the words of Winterbottom I was flabberwhelmed. One lucky bugger also won N1million, they gave out 2 Virgin Atlantic tickets to watch the next Lord of the Ribs at the O2 in England and a South African Airways ticket. Dude also had some heavy sponsors. I was just like daaaang, comedy pays sha.

He had international comedians from South Africa and England, the SA dude was the best of the night, i stayed rolling throughout his performance. After the comedians the musicians now took over; 2face, MI and where there's MI there will be Banky W (I don't know why but keep an eye out yourselves, if you see Banky W somewhere, look around you'll def see MI too), IcePrince who performed that banger, "Oleku", Sound Sultan, ELdee, Terry G, Wizkid etc.

Wizkid is just the cutest, chai, fine boy no pimples and he's soooo young. I loved Terry G's performance, I'm such a Free Madness stan, that song is jut pure foolywang, dude is not claiming to be some sort of intellectual or a sensitive person, its just a fun fun song. Himself, who is used to my Celine Dion taste in music could not believe his eyes when I jumped up and was shouting "free me now!" with the rest of the crowd, I showed my Arondizuogu that day, trust.


Banky performing Strong Ting with Kafy, o seksi gan

Ooooh and last week I finally received the Contour & Highlight Kit and Brush from Sleek Makeup that I won in @sleekmakeup's twitter contest. Great product, gave me cheekbones for days.



And I officially finished NYSC, yay! It was a great year.


Ediri, Winterbottom

And after much yarning I'm out Blogville lovers xxx


Me, at work right now. 21st century lawyer toh bad

This post is dedicated to a fellow profashional Omoshalewa Akin-Taylor who was so concerned about the fact that I hadn't blogged in a while she called me out on twitter. Love and light xxx (and yes I fapped that from Kimora, if it bother's you can like to jump inside a mine)

Breast Cancer Awareness

The Pink Pearl Foundation is taking her (Breast Cancer) awareness campaign to Isolo, Lagos State, Nigeria on Saturday 9th of October.

Save a life.

Spread the word.

The meeting point is the Lagos State Polytechnic Isolo. For those on the Island interested in going, please be at 7 Owena (Blue House) Crescent, Parkview Estate by 9am, the bus will leave at 9.30am for Isolo. Come dressed in jeans and comfy shoes, t-shirts would be given at the meeting point. If you want to go on your own please meet us at the Lagos State Polytechnic Isolo, rally kicks off at 10.30am.

Also lets pray for the success of the rally and for a positive impact.

So I'll be there, any of my gorgeous, philanthropic profashionals that feel like doing something positive please be there. October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, lets make a difference in any way that we can xxx

The Weekend and Slu....ssshhhh

I love public holidays and every day I thank Jehovah that I live in a country that has public holidays for days. The general ones, religious ones, just for the hell of it ones...e.g.
- January 1st: New Years
- February 26th: Id-el-Maulud
- April: Good Friday, Easter Monday
- May 1st: May Day
- May 29th: Democeacy Day
- September 11th: Id-el-Fitri
- October 1st: Independence Day
- November 18th: Id-el-Kabir
- December 25th: Keresimesi
- December 26th: Boxing Day

I know there are more, I just can't remember them right now. June 12th is observed in Lagos too...sometimes and the darling that is Obasanjo decreed that if a public holiday fell on a weekend then the following weekday will be work-free! In addition to my Nysc cd days, honestly I've barely worked this year.

Anyhoo, October 1st was Naija's baiday therefore I sat my heinie at home on Friday, though I heard some efiko's were spotted at work. Around midday I started to get cabin fever *I can never be a housewife btw, boredom for yonks* so I decided to go hang with my faboosh friend Jen, who got it into her head to eat puff-puff by all means that day. She actually went to the market to buy flour and had her cook make puff-puff, jokes! We spent the day watching Gossip Girls Season 4, The Good Wife, chopulating the puff-puff, kissing her son Osahon and gossiping seriously. Before I left had to take a gander at Jens closet, one word for it...phenomenal! One day I have to do a blog post on her closet, from Louboutins, to Lanre Da-Silva, to Deola Sagoe, to Jewel by Lisa, to Vuitton, Chanel, Diane Von Furstenberg, Chopard, Miu Miu, Dolce....you get my drift. Its absolute madness in there. A t-shirt or tank top dare not show its face in Jen's room, the girl wears outfits. In short I stan for Jen's closet.

Went on to Bisola Winterbottoms house for yet another party (this child really needs to go into event planning, she draws crowds to the Mainland whenever she's having anything).

That was my October 1st in a nutshell, didn't do anything remotely patriotic, couldn't be bothered to be honest. The whole independence thing was getting on my nerves sef, earlier in the day I was in some godawful traffic because members of Christ Embassy decided they wanted to set up a float in the middle of the road and start handing out copies of that Rhapsody book, can't remember the proper name. Anyhoo, in an effort to try and get out of it, I did some Grand Theft Auto style driving and managed to knock off someones side mirror. Nigerians, being the drama loving people that they are, the scene was crowded in 5 seconds. Being a law-abiding citizen I had no intention of making a run for it, so I parked, went over to the guy and offered to share information so I could get his car fixed. Dude just went OFF on me, yelling and what not. I was just like shouting is not gonna fix your car, the guy wasn't even listening, he just kept yelling, the amebos were there shouting, okada guys were shouting...it was a mess. Seeing that noone was being rational there, I left them and went to my car to sit down until the guy was ready to talk and apparently that was a huge insult, it seemed to annoy the crowd the more that I wasn't begging or grovelling, that I went to sit in my car. I was totally confused, I'd admitted responsibility for the damage, I had offered to pay for it and I had apologised, why would they need me to beg, was it gonna help the situation in any way. Nigerians are just insane, honestly nothing can save this country. Finally managed to get outta the situation.

Saturday was my boyfriend Azubuike's 4th birthday and he was having a pool party for all the baby kele's in Parkview, so as his aristo mummy, I made my way down there. My baby threw a hell of a party, he had great food, hannah montana karaoke, babes in barbie bikinis, spiderman party packs...it was a great day.

Adanna, Azuibuke's mum, My baby. p.s. I got him the gift he's holding, a Buzz Lightyear light saber type sword. It was a HIT. My gift buying skills are legendary

From there went on to Slu...ssshhh at the Marquee with Adanna, awesome party. There were performances by Ikechukwu, MI, some other dudes I can't remember their names but I know their songs sha. Noble Igwe throws a slammin party. I met soo many twitter peeps, shotout to @pamboogie, @ricdizzle, @jideaboderin.

Peep my gorgeous new Odion Mimonet purse. Thanks darling xxx



Adanna


My boo, the original Bad Guy, Afolabi aka Beazy



Mr. Incredible. There's a funny story behind how I met MI. At the 2face concert, I was sat at a table next to his and at some point I tweeted "MI is short, Chineke". One gbeborun either copied him in the tweet or Retweeted it, anyhoo he saw it and was like @VivrantThing I heard you o. Everyone who knows me knows I heart MI tres much, I had to let him know that his size was not commensurate to my loving him, lol. The long and short of it was he started following me on twitter and we began a beautiful friendship


Ikechukwu performing


Adebayo. He's the Creative Director for Onyx & Pearl Clothing and I recently started spotting him at events (he's such a cutie) he also writes the blog leoandpisces.blogspot.com

Sunday was totally chilled out, mooched around His house, then we went to get mini burgers and watch the Arsenal-Chelsea match later in the day.
*sidebar* The bowling place at the Silverbird Galleria (can't remember the name) does awesome mini burgers, like I've become totally addicted to them and you get 6 burgers with fries for only N1,900. Thats amazing value, trust.